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a licentious money-drenched morally
0:39 bankrupt and intellectually vacuous ruling class accountable to no one and
0:45 free to plunder and prey on the weak like human vultures rise to power in societies and terminal decline where the
0:52 rule of law has collapsed and desperate human beings have been reduced to commodities
0:58 this class of parasites was savagely parodied in the first century satirical
1:04 novel satiricon by gaius petronius written during the reign of nero when
1:10 rome's republican values were abandoned for unbridled greed hedonism and
1:15 narcissism jeffrey epstein and his cohorts drawn from the ruling political academic and
1:22 financial elites for years engaged in sexual perversions and exploitation of
1:29 patronian proportions sex as in the late roman empire has been transformed in the
1:35 twilight of the american empire from a private act of intimacy to one of public
1:41 entertainment sex tapes internet porn sexting hookup apps combined to give
1:47 anyone a platform for their sexual exploits as well as sexual preferences
1:54 eurydice in her book satirican usa a journey across the new sexual frontier
2:01 set out to look with remarkable understanding and empathy at the sexual landscape of the united states spending
2:08 time with crossdressers bdsm practitioners celibate catholic priests
2:14 and even necrophiliacs her portrait of america is one that carried out below the radar
2:21 exposes a nation desperately seeking catharsis and as she writes a need for
2:26 continuity and safety and uniformity and love joining me to discuss her book satiricon
2:33 usa a journey across the new sexual frontier is eurydice so i want to begin
2:40 eurydice by this article that appeared recently in the new york times
2:45 and they say that nearly half of american adults and a majority of women
2:50 say that dating has gotten harder for most people over the past 10 years according to the pew research center
2:58 fully half of single adults have given up on looking for a relationship or
3:03 dating at all rates of sexual activity partnership and marriage have reached a 30-year low with
3:11 young adults leading the retreat
extreme kind of um decline in in
5:20 in ethics which was the result of this separation from our bodies so the
5:27 scientific revolution had further like distanced us from our nature and and
5:33 made us beholden completely to our culture and you know the laws and the
5:38 words of new words new laws that constantly change in reproductive
5:44 matters um so what you're describing is
5:49 the norm now which is an overall loneliness and and sense of of you know
5:57 despair and kind of like you know understanding love uh becoming
6:03 one with each other trusting each other um is is a result of that fragmentation
6:11 which i think created a new stage in our society which is like a post-patriarchy
6:17 like a meta a metaculture right and what you named you know with jeffrey epstein
6:24 is again you know very much a result of that sense of um
6:30 women are empowered by objectifying their own body right so that creates
6:37 such a vast distance from oneself you know
6:42 there is no way to reunite with ourselves and find our own truth so we're always looking for that truth
6:49 outside um and and we are not listening to our body which is what we are
6:56 you know
19:37 it reminded me of the of the christian rituals of self-flagellation
19:42 a lot uh but without the spiritual angle you know so a lot of our uh sexual you know our new
19:50 sexual uh let's say them practices you know fetishes uh identities
19:56 are are things that we have done in the past but now god's gone
20:02 well you liking it you're liking it you liking it to the penitential scourging in the 14th century why
20:09 right um because it felt that it was the same um
20:15 [Music] quest by our you know a culture which is at war
20:22 with nature uh to to confirm that the desires of the body which are natural can be controlled
20:30 by the desires and and the rules of the mind which is controlled by the culture
20:37 you know um something that i didn't really discuss much in the book which i
20:42 feel very strongly about because it's you know some some time has passed is that
20:49 this this way of thinking about humanity and civilization has been at odds with
20:56 nature and being created in order to like uh take you know control our
21:03 existence within nature uh has brought us to this moment of climate crisis and
21:09 this crisis can only be addressed by kind of finding our place back in nature of some kind of
21:16 rebalancing between our culture and our nature right so
21:22 the more we we distance ourselves from our body we also distance ourselves from the
21:29 nature in which we belong and which in the end will outlive us right and nature
21:37 you know is culture becomes culture is man-made um we can update it if if we
21:44 want um and if we don't update it i think soon
21:50 uh we may self suicide
I obviously am a Muslim so have different beliefs (it all makes sense, to Allah we will return, so do we take ourselves as Gods and our low desires? When we know this life is just so short and all other forms of nature are heterosexual in action (even if it comes from a singular plant for example having both parts (male and female)) and life is a struggle to survive (compete - all the world is in vain, so glorify Allah).
Culture is man-made.
Our economic system is man-made.
- How much of a struggle is it for some when some employ the tools of interest and unfair or unbalanced trade (transactions)? How progressive is it if the science is clear - that we've made and are making a lonely and sick society when we stick to these old phony forms of economic paradigms/realities of old political-capitalist ideas; that are words that don't fully address the reality of life/the world? (The realities of so called "free" capitalism for instance and it's failures especially within a "free" democracy (opened up for corruption via power (money)). When humans have something inside us that differentiates us from the monkeys and apes - you can call it a spirit, heart, morality...along with brains that can learn and hands that can write/create.
25:56 consumption rather than commitment and the emphasis on money becoming the
26:02 attraction of the male instead of might so like in old patriarchy might was
26:09 right a new patriarchy money was might money was right um and the man would
26:15 come and literally put the dollars on the female body and have access to it in
26:21 some way or another for a period of time so that commercialization of like intimacy or
26:28 the appearance of intimacy and the way that the female you know
26:33 attractive body was objectified to a point of like you know enslavement
26:40 um was difficult for me to to perceive even
26:45 though i was a feminist and i knew that i was supposed to understand it as female empowerment and as you know these
26:52 women's like a way of making a decent living and i found a similar thing with
26:57 sex addiction which i also looked at extensively and it was you know
27:02 very much an experience of money as well uh the the sex addict could pay
27:09 uh for you know whether it was like sex or or sleepers or uh affairs or
27:16 serial wives or you know whatever it was so it became a that his
27:22 masculinity his you know his like phallic empowerment was again associated with his monetary
27:30 prowess so you write that the social service strip clubs perform is not primarily
27:37 sexual what do you mean by that that it's a psychological empowerment
27:42 for the men um and that it is a reassurance of the working man
27:50 that what he's doing kind of like staying in the machine uh
27:56 has perks that it's worth doing because he gets to go here after work but but you also say that you call it the little
28:03 man's revenge it alleviates his stress of being controlled by constricting institutions
28:09 politics technologies mores it enables him to feel part of the controlling
28:14 elite yes and it's a fallacy with a ph
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today we spend the hour with dr gabor mate the acclaimed canadian physician and author he's just out with a new book
0:12 the myth of normal trauma illness and healing and a toxic culture dr mate has
0:18 worked for decades in vancouver as a family physician palliative care director addiction clinician and
0:24 observer of human health dr mate's work has long focused on the centrality of
0:30 early childhood experiences to the development of the brain and how those experiences can impact everything from
0:36 behavioral patterns to physical and mental illness over the years he's written a number of best-selling books
0:42 including in the realm of hungry ghosts close encounters with addiction when the body says no exploring the stress
0:48 disease connection and scattered minds the origins and healing of attention
0:54 deficit disorder in a moment we'll speak to dr gabor mate but first i want to turn to a trailer of
1:00 a documentary about his work titled the wisdom of trauma
1:07 in the u.s the rigid society in history fully half of the citizens have a chronic disorder such as high blood
1:13 pressure or diabetes anxiety amongst young people is growing rapidly asthma and autoimmune diseases are on
1:20 the rise as our addictions depression is rising
1:25 youth suicide is rising all is not well i started hearing at 26. that's what
1:32 really destroyed me just takes the pain away it's easy to want to escape reality completely
1:38 instead of coping with it and so the question is can we be human beings in the midst of
1:44 civilization because what we call civilization demands the denial of human needs
2:00 every human being has a true genuine authentic self and the trauma is that disconnection
2:06 from it and the healing is the reconnection with it why do we get disconnected because it's
2:12 too painful to be ourselves so you sort of a bit like in the matrix
when neo sees everything's made out of numbers you look at people and you see all their trauma and damage that's what
2:24 i see so trauma is not the bad things that happen to you but what happens inside
2:30 you as a result of what happens to you
the time you're five years old you're completely alone people are much more lonely and isolated
2:55 than they used to be literally it causes inflammation in the body and suppresses the immune system
so the pandemic actually revealed to us how toxic our idea of normal has been because it showed us the desperate need
4:55 for human connection that we all have but this is in a culture that has been isolating and atomizing individuals for
5:01 a long time where loneliness has been an epidemic for decades it showed the
5:07 noxious effect of racism and inequality because the people who had the um
5:13 greatest risk for being affected by covert were those of lower social class and of people of color
5:20 it the normal that we came from in my perspective was already a toxic normal
5:26 we don't want to go back to it because my contention in this book is what we consider to be normal in this
5:32 society is actually neither natural or healthy in fact it's a cause of much
5:37 human pathology mental and physical and actually people's pathologies what we call
5:43 abnormalities whether it's mental or physical illness or actually normal responses to what is an abnormal culture
and dr gabor mate you say in the book in fact that there are no clear lines between normal
5:59 and ab normal could you explain what you mean by that and how you understand the
6:05 spectrum along which these things lie well the key here is trauma
6:11 trauma is a psychological wound that people sustain and i'm saying that in this society most
6:17 of us because of the nature of the culture the way we raise children the way we have to relate to each other the
6:23 very values of a society are traumatizing for a lot of people so that it's false to say that some people are
6:30 normal and others are abnormal in fact we're all on the spectrum of of woundedness which has great impact on
6:37 how we relate to each other and on our health and dr mate explain how you understand
6:43 as you say in the book that the term trauma has a greek origins but
6:50 that it's come to mean something quite different i mean in the greek origin it referred to a physical injury or a
6:57 physical wound but in a psychiatry in the work of freud and psychoanalysis
7:03 in medical literature generally now trauma is understood as a wound to the mind
7:11 it's a wound to the psyche to our emotional being and to the soul and
7:17 trauma is not what happens to us people when they think of trauma they think usually
7:22 of catastrophic events like a tsunami or a war or parents dying or
7:28 sexual or physical emotional abuse of a child these events are traumatic but they're
7:34 not the trauma the trauma is the psychic wound that we sustain and our psychological traumas have lifelong
7:42 impacts and in my medical work i found that psychological trauma woundedness
7:48 underlies much of what we call disease whether autoimmune illness or cancer or
7:54 the various mental health conditions and in our society psychological woundedness
8:00 is very prevalent and it's a rather an illusion to believe some people are traumatized in others or
8:06 not i think there's a spectrum of trauma that crosses all layers and all segments
8:11 of society naturally it falls heavier on certain sections
actually they're easier to deal with but for a lot of people it's much more insidious and much more chronic than
14:19 that for example certain child reading practices for decades
14:25 the dr spock was kind of the guru of parenting advice parents not to give in
14:31 to the infant's tyranny that infant's resistance to sleep
14:36 what he calls the infant's tyranny is the infant's desperate need to be picked up and held by the parent
14:42 that's just a trait that we share with all other mammals you tell a mother baboon not to
14:47 pick up their baby or a mother cat not to respond to the child's distress but here in north america we've been telling
14:54 parents for decades to ignore their children's cries and or for example when a child is angry a
15:02 two-year-old is angry to make give them a time out which is to say to threaten them with the loss of the attachment
15:08 relationship that they desperately need those events are just as traumatic over the long term but they're harder to
15:15 identify because they seem so normal and they don't seem dramatic
15:20 but they do show up later on in life in all kinds of dysfunctional patterns
15:26 and dr mate you speak in the book about unresolved traumas
15:32 so in the examples that you're giving now or indeed in the case of trauma more generally if
15:37 one can speak generally about trauma what kinds of practices can lead if at all to the
15:45 resolution of a trauma well whether we're speaking about
15:51 on a social level which we have to speak or whether on the individual level which
15:56 is what it strikes most of us the first thing that has to happen is a recognition that are we living or some
16:04 aspect of our lives is not working for us and that there's a cause for it which we can actually uncover by some
16:10 compassionate inquiry and very often there needs to be a wake-up call now called it could have
16:16 been a wake-up call for this culture but i don't think it will have worked that way it should have but it didn't because
16:21 of the nature of this society the transformation the resistance the social transformation in this culture is so
16:28 deep that the covet lessons i don't think have been learned nor will be applied on the individual level
16:35 very often it's an illness whether of a depression an anxiety a psychiatric diagnosis
16:42 a relationship breakup or a physical illness like an autoimmune disease or malignancy that
16:47 works as the wake of a call so there's got to be some kind of event that happens that says this
16:54 this is not working we need to understand why not i need to move past it and once we get that wake-up call
17:01 in whatever form and one of my intentions in this book is to to help people not get to that dire
17:08 dramatic point where some significant the illness has to wake them up but once we get to the point of waking up then we
17:14 conduct an inquiry okay what was driving my behaviors why was i always driving myself on a job
17:22 like as if my life depended on it why was i a workaholic stressing myself
17:27 why was i so hard on my children what is it that makes me feel so hurt
17:33 when my partner doesn't pick me up at the airport you know so then we start looking at what happened
17:39 to our lives and we find the answers in our history and then
17:44 it's a matter of letting go of those patterns and that takes some kind of work usually therapy
17:50 or some kind of spiritual work or psychological work some kind of different way of taking care of
17:55 ourselves usually it takes some inquiry what i call a compassionate inquiry of looking
18:00 at ourselves with real curiosity what is causing me to live the way i'm
18:05 living
your book comes out an extraordinary time given your topic and i know it took
18:16 you years to write but now in the pandemic
18:22 you have according to the cdc hospitals reported a 24
18:31 increase in mental health emergencies for children between the ages of what
18:37 five to 11. and the issue of mental health overall so critical at this point
18:45 you talk a lot also about loneliness but can you start by talking about this
18:51 mental health crisis among youth and the escalating suicide
18:58 yes so the new york times about three weeks ago as we speak now had a front page
19:04 article on their sunday edition about a teenager who was on 10 different psychiatric medications can you imagine
19:11 10 different psychiatric medications and there's been articles in the new yorker and the new york times within the
19:16 last four or five months about the rising tide of childhood suicides
19:21 there is a vast increase in a number of children being diagnosed with adhd
19:27 attention deficit hyperactive disorder with anxiety depression self-cutting
19:33 obsessive compulsive behaviors and so on now we can make two assumptions either
19:38 there's some accidental totally unexplainable rise in childhood pathology that has no
19:45 specific reason whatsoever for its instigation or we can recognize that we
19:50 live in a toxic culture that by its very nature affects children development in
19:55 such unhealthy ways that children are increasingly mentally unbalanced and
20:01 desperate to the extent that they're cutting themselves and even trying to kill themselves so we have to look for
20:06 those conditions not in the individual mind or brain or personality of the child or youth we
20:14 have to look at them into social conditions that drive children in those those directions and unfortunately
20:20 in a public conversation around it it's all about the pathology and how to treat it and it's not about the social
20:27 cultural causes that are driving children in those desperate directions so can you talk about
20:34 how you view this and how this not just this country the world can heal
20:41 especially focusing on youth well we need to begin right at the
20:46 beginning and the beginning is actually in the womb now we already know from multiple multiple studies not even
20:53 controversial that the more stress there is on pregnant women the greater the impact
20:59 even decades later on the well-being of the of the infant so how are we looking after pregnant
21:06 women the average physician i mean i was trained as a medical doctor to this day
21:11 the average physician when they're trained in prenatal care they're not trained to ask about the woman's
21:16 emotional states they're not trained to ask about how are you doing how's your relationship how's
21:22 your work stress what can we do to support you we only look after the body and we separate the mind from the body
21:28 we know that stresses on the woman can already have an impact on the infant then there's our birth practices
21:35 in north america now the cesarean section rate is approaching 40 percent now
21:41 modern obstetrics is miraculous in its capacity to save lives
21:47 and it should be applied about 10 to 15 of cases for the benefit of the infant or the
21:52 mother but the 40 c-section rate and the mechanization of birth natural birth as
21:59 evolved by nature was designed to produce a bonding experience for mother and infant
22:05 including the release of bonding chemicals that'll bring them together for a lifelong relationship where we
22:12 medicalize birth we interfere with it we mechanize it we create fear around it
22:18 we're actually interfering with the mother child bond on which the child's healthy development
22:24 develops then in the united states 25 percent of women
22:30 have to go back to work within two weeks of giving birth now nature would have that mom be with
22:35 the child for at least nine months usually longer if you look at it historically
22:41 25 percent of women having to go back to work for economic reasons for lack of social support
22:48 amongst a massive abandonment of infants because that's how the infants experience it that's the only way they
22:54 can interpret it just the way i interpret it my mother is giving me to a stranger as an abandonment then there's
23:00 the child wearing practices that i've already mentioned of not picking up children when they're crying
23:06 of parents being so stressed that their stresses are absorbed by the infant
23:11 that the parents economic racial social anxieties relational anxieties their own
23:17 unresolved trauma are absorbed by the infants then there's parenting practices
23:23 that focus on trying to control the child's behavior without in any way trying to meet the child's needs the
23:29 human child is born with certain needs for unconditional loving acceptance for being held for the capacity to
23:36 experience all their emotions with parental support in this society
23:41 those needs are denied over and over and over again and most of our children
23:46 spend most of their time away from their parents so they lose the connection with the parent
23:52 do we wonder then that the child's circuits of anxiety and panic in the brain are activated and extra
23:58 over-activated these are natural consequences of an unnatural culture
interview quote being left with an emptiness and insatiable craving creates addiction
24:26 in the personal sense and capitalism in the social sense and both these are
24:32 taken to be coping mechanisms for the experience of trauma if you could
24:37 explain well let me give you a more simple exa i will answer that question but let me
24:43 give you first a simpler example of social trauma and illness so it's been
24:48 well shown that the more experiences of racism a black or a black american woman
24:54 has to endure the greater her risk for asthma in other words the constriction of our
24:59 airways and the inflammation of our airways are the physiological product of a social malaise now who's got the
25:06 pathology here society or the individual can we even make a separation between the two
25:12 we know that if you look at the markers of aging various biological markers of aging
25:20 they're much more advanced and black people of the same age as their white as their caucasian cohorts simply because
25:26 of racism because social stress and trauma translate into the physiology of the individual you can't separate the
25:33 mind from the body and you cannot separate the individual from the environment in canada where i live an
25:40 indigenous woman by the way indigenous people used to have no autoimmune disease whatsoever prior to colonization
25:48 today an indigenous woman in canada exists time to risk six times the risk of rheumatoid arthritis
25:55 and the same thing is true in the united states by the way that autoimmune disease strikes especially women and
26:01 especially women of color at much higher rates these reasons have nothing to do with genetics and everything to do with
26:08 social trauma now the emptiness that you refer to
26:14 in a society that tells you that you're not enough that you're not good enough that you don't look good enough that you
26:19 don't have enough that you don't own enough but you haven't detained enough creating this sense of emptiness
26:26 is the fuel that runs the consumer society where never is him enough you always have to
26:32 have more and more you have to attain more and more obtain more and more so basically it's a highly addictive
26:39 culture that feeds off people's addiction to drive its profits and they do so quite deliberately
26:46 when it comes to the food industry for example you probably remember this book a few years ago salt sugar and fat where the
26:54 food companies very deliberately tried to identify using sophisticated
26:59 neuroscience the sweet spot the bliss spot the that when you have the right combination
27:05 of salt sugar and fat in your junk food that's what gets people addicted so that the the
27:12 digital companies uh employ what's called neuro marketing
27:18 they try and find what's the best way to excite the circuits in the brain of the customer that gets most addicted
27:26 in order to get them hooked on their products what we're looking at here is the mass engineering of addiction
27:33 and we're not talking conspiracy theory this is conspiracy reality that's how it works but of course from the point of
27:39 view of profit it works because people are going to buy junk foods that are going to kill them or make them ill
27:45 but that's companies don't care they just don't want they just want it's not that they're trying to kill you as i say
27:50 in one chapter of the book they just don't care if you die because what really matters is profit so this society runs on people's sense of
27:58 deficient emptiness where more and more is what they think is needed to fill that hole inside themselves
and i talk about that in the book and visa such a noble and inspiring example of
31:22 that and in the book i give many examples of people who are faced with serious diagnoses written
31:29 off by western medicine but they have a powerful transformation in their relationship to themselves they regain
31:36 that connection to themselves that they lost the result of trauma and as a result the illness takes very surprising
31:44 trajectories sometimes miraculous and so in the book i talk about women with
31:50 rheumatoid arthritis or multiple sclerosis who are told that you got this disease for
31:56 the rest of your life and it's just a physical disease nothing we can do about it when they realize
32:01 that both the rheumatoid arthritis and the multiple sclerosis have to do with trauma and stress for which by the way
32:09 there's all kinds of research evidence completely ignored in medical practice or when they realize that how they live
32:16 their lives that the disease is not an accident the disease is a manifestation
32:21 of how they live their lives informed by their unresolved trauma when they deal with the trauma and they
32:27 develop a different relationship to themselves all of a sudden the disease lightens up for them as you expect they
32:34 would once you realize that the mind and body are inseparable and by the way i'm not the only one who writes about this
32:40 there's been researchers from harvard and elsewhere who've documented similar cases the point we're all making is that
32:47 the mind and body is inseparable the individual is inseparable from the environment
32:52 and so that when you look at the whole person in their whole environment in a whole context we have powerful
32:58 modalities of healing available to us that western medicine unfortunately seems unaware of
another way in which society might exacerbate
33:15 individual trauma you talk in the book you're critical in the book about this idea that people should simply push
33:23 through it this idea of resilience what are the effects of that
33:28 orientation towards trauma and if you could link it also with what you've just said about
33:36 the way in which the medical establishment and western medicine
33:41 understands the question of psychic wounds the average medical student deal how the
33:48 medical system deals with trauma is that it doesn't the average medical student
33:54 does not get a single lecture on the relationship between trauma and physical or mental illness despite the
34:01 voluminously documented evidence so that's this huge gap between our science and what we practice
34:08 so that so many physicians have to figure this out after they leave medical school they have to figure it on their
34:13 own because nothing in their training prepared them for it as a matter of fact their own training is often so traumatic
34:19 in itself and their own traumas are not dealt with that they're just not prepared to deal
34:24 with the traumas of their patients it's just a subject that's almost completely ignored across the practice
34:31 of medicine now in terms of the get over it and resilience aspect
34:36 there's a beautiful story or or truth that my friend dr louis mel medrona who's a lakota
34:44 sioux background psychiatrist and physician and louis malmodrone told me and she's
34:52 an author as well and he told me that in a la courte edition when somebody gets ill
34:58 the community says thank you your illness represents some dysfunction in our whole community because we're not
35:05 separate your body is not separate from your mind and your mind is not separate from the rest of our minds we co-create
35:12 each other so your illness represents some dysfunction some imbalance in our
35:18 whole community so your healing is our healing how can we support you
35:24 that's the traditional indigenous way of looking at human beings which modern science by the way is more than amply
35:31 validated but which modern medicine still ignores so now the onus is not
35:37 just an individual to get over it it's actually
35:43 resilience is seen as a communal endeavor into the criminal attribute and when you isolate people atomize them
35:50 you make them feel guilty or weak for their illness and tell them to get over
35:55 their trauma you're just shaming them more you're isolating them more and you're
36:00 intentioning them more in a traumatic imprint what people need is community
36:06 contact compassion safety that's what allows people to work through their traumas
36:13 and unfortunately that's not readily available
there's this amazing figure out from the national center for health statistics revealing that u.s life expectancy
36:26 fell from 79 years old in 2019 to 76 in
36:33 2021 the largest two-year decline in almost
36:38 a century with advances in modern medicine it's astounding but maybe not
36:43 astounding when you look at the kind of health system we have in this country that increases the disparities
36:50 between those who have wealth and those who don't when you look at you know health and a capitalist
36:57 system i was wondering if you could comment on that dr mate well the
37:03 impact of inequality has been studied by circle michael marmot who's a british epidemiologist and he's former head of
37:09 the world medical association and they talk about
37:15 a social gradient that the lower social class you are the greater the risk to your health
37:21 and this has been known for decades now the these decline in the u.s national
37:29 life expectancy you can look upon it again as sort of mysterious individual
37:34 pathology or we can actually look at the social conditions that drive it and much of that is due to the
37:41 hollowing out of the american industrial heartland due to globalization and the loss of meaning
37:48 and purpose and meaningful employment in people's lives this is what have been called the united states
37:54 deaths of despair so so many of these deaths are due to suicide and to drug overdoses and to
38:01 alcoholism and suicide and drug overdoses and alcoholism are direct outcomes of a
38:07 society that deprives people of meaning and belonging a sense of connection a
38:13 sense of value a sense of purpose so again we can look upon these manifestations as
38:19 individual pathology which yields no explanation whatsoever or we
38:25 can see them as the outcomes of a toxic culture you experience the same thing in the in the former soviet union when they with
38:32 the collapse of the former soviet union lots of jobs loss of employment loss of meaning and
38:38 purpose the the life expectancy of men plummeted drastically within a few years now we've
38:45 seen the same phenomenon in the united states the title of your book dr gaber mate is the myth of normal
38:52 trauma illness and healing in a toxic culture so
38:58 why don't we end with that question of healing both individually and as a
39:04 society yes so
39:10 healing again if you look at word origins which i often do comes to my word for wholeness
39:16 so healing actually is a movement towards our wholeness now if trauma is a split from ourselves
39:23 for example split from our bodies is in the case of v who had to disconnect from her body to survive her childhood
39:30 then healing is that reconnection with ourselves and that and if trauma is not what the
39:36 terrible things that happen to us but trauma is the wound that we sustained and are carrying that's a very positive
39:42 message because it means that that wound can be healed at any time you see if the trauma is what happened to me
39:49 now 77 years ago that my mother gave me to the stranger that will never not have
39:54 happened but if the trauma is what i made it mean the wound that i sustained
40:00 that i wasn't the lovable worthwhile human being that wound can be healed at any moment
40:06 in all of us so the last and longest section of the book explores what we call pathways to healing or pathways to
40:13 wholeness that's the meaning of healing there are many different pathways there's no one size fits for all it
40:20 needs to be begin with the recognition that how we living and harvey are
40:25 relating to ourselves and others is not healthy it may be the norm in this culture but it's neither healthy or
40:31 natural and there are better ways and the same thing is true for our culture and the essential
40:39 first step is what i call being disillusioned now people usually think of disillusionment as
40:44 discouraging and somehow negative no would we rather be illusioned or
40:51 disillusioned would you rather see the world through rose-colored glasses not seeing what's in front of us or we would rather deal
40:58 with reality the way it is in the final chapter i called james baldwin the great great james baldwin who said that
41:05 not everything that's faced can be healed but nothing that's not faced can be
41:10 healed
41:21 you
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This is ridiculous. Give me the pills (anti-depressents) because this is some brain dead sterilized crap.
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- I wonder, if these people who propose such things, (if they are actually serious) if they have any (at all) basic knowledge about physics and energy. ?. Like it's MORE healthy for the planet, if we had warehouses and warehouses around every populated center, full of robotics, and solar or wind farms (Amazon to the power of 7 or so), so we can create an "Utopia" where "you will own nothing and be happy" - It is not circular economy principles, but it seems they want to "own" it and manipulate it's ideas in their favor, as it could be dangerous, in this climate (change) and societal moment (in time).
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